Spice Up Your Bedroom Boogie With the Best Sex Toys for Couples

Sex Toys For Couples

I am about to share with you the absolute best sex toys for couples that I have had the pleasure (pun intended) of trying out. “But if you have a partner, why do you need sex toys?” I’ve heard so often… to which I reply “Because sex toys are fun! And they add some spice and variety to your sex life!” And of course, they’re amazing for those couples who are giving it a go long-distance, or simply lead such busy lives that you can’t connect in person as frequently as you’d like. Plus, I know some people who get weirded out when they know their partner is using a toy on there own – and so this a great way to spice things up while feeling comfortable because you’re actually interacting (with our own toys). #technologyisamazing

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Some of My Favorite Sex Toys for Couples

Now don’t get your panties in a twist; I’m not saying that your spunk torpedo isn’t enough to satisfy your partner. Quite the contrary, I’m sure it’s a lovely specimen that does its job with diligence and success.

However, all of you who shy away from sex toys thinking that they can somehow threaten your masculinity and sexual prowess need an urgent wake-up call. Sex toys are excellent, and they will definitely transform your sexy times. It’s not about your purple helmeted warrior of love needing a break every now and then. It’s about trying out something new that both you and your partner will enjoy.

So, now that we squared that away, let’s see which sex toys for couples are the best, shall we?

Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona

Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona

Like PB and J, Kiiroo Onyx + & Cliona are the perfect match. Their synergy will transport both you and your partner into Pleasureville. Now, I know you think you’ve been there before, but trust me – you just skimmed the surface.

In essence, these two toys are practically magical, both on their own and when working in tandem. The Onyx+ is a powerful automatic blowjob machine that will leave you with weak knees for a couple of hours at least. Likewise, the Cliona is Onyx+’s companion bullet vibrator.

What makes these toys so perfect is that they are ideal for long-distance couples. Sure, sex toys for couples are great, but sometimes you and your hot momma aren’t in the same room (or town or even country). But that doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun, right?

That’s where these two toys come in. You can pair them up via the simple (and user-friendly) FeelConnect app and have them work in tandem. In other words, whatever you command your BJ machine to do, the coupled vibrator will emulate. It’s almost like having sex, right?

Now, if you’re single, you can still get your money’s worth out of these two babies. Not only can you use the BJ machine on its own (duh), but you can also play with strangers that you can connect with via the app.

The app is one of the best features of these two toys. Now, I know I sound crazy when I say that (surely the thrusting features are better, Mark?). However, the app also allows you to video chat with your partner, send videos, and generally connect on a more intimate level with them. When it comes to long-distance sex, that’s as good as it gets!

Max 2 and Nora

Max 2 & Nora

Teledildonics (or couple’s sex toys that sync up and do their best to diminish the distance between couples in long-distance relationships) have a weird name. What are you doing? Oh, just chatting with my long-distance girlfriend and playing with our teledildonics. Weird, right?

But the noble work they do more than makes up for it. Not to mention, individual toy names also decrease the weirdness. Let’s take Max 2 and Nora, for example. Their names are mundane and inconspicuous – perfect if you’re talking on the phone with your girlfriend but don’t have enough privacy for dirty talk.

Anyway, Max 2 is a masturbatory sleeve, and Nora is a hefty vibrator. They both have more than enough features on their own, but they are close to perfect together. I won’t get into the fact that the penis-like toy is called Nora, and the vagina-like toy is called Max because I don’t think that everything needs to conform to heteronormativity. However, “Nora will destroy your yoni” sounds a bit freaky.

But let’s move away from the mind-bending name conundrums, shall we? Both toys have a Bluetooth chip in them, which allows you to sync them up and play with your partner. On their own, they are equally as impressive. The Nora has a curved wand, perfect for hitting that G-spot and is of a decent size. Max has a great skin-like texture and an innovative air-vent technology feature that makes it stand out in the crowd.

Lovesense really doesn’t mess around when it comes to sex toys, which is why Max 2 and Nora are on my list. My partner and I love them and use them regularly (perhaps even more frequently than one might think) when we aren’t together. And, let’s be honest, sometimes even when we are together.

Lelo Tiani 3

Lelo Tiani 3

Lelo’s Tiani 3, also known as “double bliss,” is an excellent toy for spicing up your sex life. You can, of course, use it all by yourself. But, hey, double the pleasure, double the fun, right?

Anyway, Lelo’s Tiani 3 is a rather small-looking toy. It’s a vibrator that has two arms that look unremarkable. However, if you think that’s a sign the toy won’t do much, you’re wrong.

Of course, Tiani 3 can be used even when you’re engaging in some much-needed solo time. However, it’s better with a partner. Unlike other bullet vibrators that focus on stimulating the clitoris and leave all the hard inside work to the penis-wielding partner, this one works on both fronts (inside and out).

The two arms are of different girth and size (for a good reason). The bigger one goes on the outside, and it’s supposed to snuggle up to the clitoris and vibrate it to an orgasm. The slimmer arm goes inside. Now, why is it slim if it’s supposed to go inside? Well, because your (hopefully not) Limp Bizkit is supposed to find its way inside, right next to it, as well.

Now, I can already hear you complaining about a foreign something-something touching your hot beef injection. Well, trust me when I say that you’ll love it. The vibrations are powerful enough to not only tease you but seriously bring you to the brink of orgasm in no time at all. Not to mention, the vibrations make the vagina contract. And we all LOVE that, don’t we?

Kiiroo Titan & Pearl 2

Kiiroo Titan & Pearl 2

Much like the other Kiiroo couple’s toys on my list, Titan & Pearl 2 go together swimmingly. If the automatic BJ machine and a bullet vibrator aren’t your speed, then try these two babies out for size.

Titan is an automatic male masturbator (just in case you aren’t a BJ man), and Pearl 2 is a curved vibrator. The difference between the two sets is evident, especially when you look at the size of Pearl 2. It’s bigger, girthier, and generally more substantial than Cliona.

Pearl 2 has seven different vibration patterns, and its companion, the Titan, has two modes. Again, by using the FeelConnect app, you can sync up the two toys and play with your partner (and video chat with them, as well). When you sync them up, the toys respond to each other. That means that if one partner is thrusting the Pearl 2 in and out and hitting the vibration settings buttons, the other partner (with their beaver basher in the Titan) will feel the Titan’s rings contracting around them.

Sounds like a dream, right? On top of all that, the toys are beautiful. Both toys have the signature Kiiroo minimalistic design and will make a great addition to (or a start of) your collection.

We-Vibe Chorus

We-Vibe Chorus

The Chorus might not look like much, but it’s a great sex toy for couples. We-Vibe was the first company that rethought the traditional design of vibrators and gave us the C-shaped ones. Ah, remember when vibrators were all of one shape? Yeah, me neither.

Anyway, We-Vibe is a pioneer and a titan among sex toy brands with good reason. Their toys are always exceptional, different, and innovative.

The Chorus might not look that innovative now, but it’s a stellar toy. It also comes in unusual colors (bright and vibrant pastels). The color doesn’t matter that much, especially when it comes to function, but I had to mention it because it seems as if all sex toy companies have the same purple and pink in their product selection.

Anyway, when it comes to features, the Chorus is excellent. Like other C-shaped vibrators, it has two arms that are of different sizes. The smaller arm goes inside so it can drive both you and your partner mad with its vibrations, while the bigger arm goes on the outside to pay some much-needed attention to the clitoris.

It’s also worth noting that the smaller arm will probably hit your partner’s G-spot. So, a blended orgasm for her and a stunning, delightful vibrations-assisted orgasm for you. Does it get any better than that?

Fun Factory Be-One

Fun Factory Be-One

Let’s talk about small things that carry a lot of power, shall we? Fun Factory’s Be-One vibrating finger is definitely tiny but mighty.

Now, if you’ve never heard of finger vibrators, let me broaden your horizons. Finger vibrators are small vibrators that fit perfectly between two fingers (or between the sweet honey lips of a woman’s whoo-ha) and intensify every caress.

To be perfectly honest, Be-One looks a bit like a Bluetooth hands-free receiver. Except, it has a different purpose (and capabilities). Although you won’t be able to take any calls on it, you’ll be more than able to make your partner orgasm with a flick of your finger. Now, that’s the dream, right?

Fun Factory’s Be-One is super easy to use, as it only has one button. However, don’t let that fool you. It actually has two motors that can vibrate at different speeds and patterns and four vibrating modes overall. As I said, it’s mighty. The vibrations are powerful enough that both you and your partner will feel (and enjoy) them.

It’s also waterproof and light. It weighs 28 grams, which means you won’t even feel it on your finger (until you turn it on, of course). So, in theory, you can take it anywhere with you – the shower, the bath, the kitchen, your suitcase (international fingering anyone?).

Lelo Lyla 2

Lelo Lyla 2

Lelo’s products are definitely not affordable. But, boy, are they worth the price! Lelo’s Lyla 2 is a fantastic remote-control bullet vibrator that will leave one of you in control and the other speechless (you decide who plays which part, I’m not judging).

Lyla 2’s tagline is “for couples who dare to share the pleasure.” Well, I can attest that it does take some daring to take your partner’s pleasure in your hands, especially when you’re not there to actually take it in your hands.

Lyla 2 is very discreet. It’s a small vibrator that’s exceptionally quiet. So, again, in theory, your partner can wear it while you’re out in public and be so kind to give you the remote control so you can have some fun. My partner and I did this when we first got it. We went to a party and while we were in the cab on our way there she told me she had a surprise for me in her panties. She then pressed the remote control into my hand and whispered, “You try to make me come, and I’ll try not to moan too loudly.”

It’s safe to say that was one of the best parties we’ve ever been to.

Lelo’s Lyla 2 has six different vibration patterns, but it also has buttons on its remote control that lets you control the intensity. It’s not exactly the most customizable toy, but it has enough features for you to play around with.

Liberator Sex Position Ramp

Liberator Sex Position Ramp

When I was younger, I always wanted to have sex in weird places. It was my thing, and I was proud of my accomplishments. However, as I got older, I began to appreciate the comfort that comes with having sex in decidedly “ordinary” places (that my younger self would consider boring).

Today, me, my sometimes sprained back, and one bad knee know that the bed is the best place for sex. Sure, we love the idea of shower sex and adore the passionate up-against-the-wall shagging, but let’s be honest here – I can’t really hold up myself and my partner for more than five minutes.

However, I fully realize that the bed can sometimes hinder my movement or even penetration levels. That’s precisely why I got a Liberator Sex Position Ramp.

Yes, I know the name is stupid, but the product is to die for.

It’s basically a pair of cushions that will help you get yourself or your partner into the perfect position, no matter which one you’re going for. For example, you know how sometimes when you’re eating your partner out, you get neck pain that practically blinds you? Yeah, I’ve been there. I usually ask my partner to hold her hips up so I can get on my knees, but I can’t exactly expect her to hold that position until she orgasms, right? Well, with the mighty Liberator, I don’t have to.

It’s a fantastic product for deep penetration as well. The angles will always be right, no matter how you want to get down and dirty, so trust me when I say, the Liberator is worth every penny.

Monogamy

Monogamy

Sex toys don’t always have to stimulate you physically, you know? Monogamy is the perfect example.

Now, I promised myself I’ll stop commenting on the names, but this one is simply begging me for a witty remark. Monogamy, really?

Well, it turns out, the name hits the nail right on its head. Sometimes couples who have been together for a long time get into a boring (but effective) routine and look for something to spice things up. Well, this board game (yes, it’s a board game) is a perfect choice.

The game is an ideal way to not only tease your partner and get the both of you hot and bothered but also communicate fantasies, needs, and desires. Sometimes trying out new things can be a difficult topic to broach, especially if you’ve been doing the same tricks for years. So, in situations like that, you might need a segway. Monogamy’s got your back!

It has three play levels (intimate, passionate, and steamy) that actively encourage you to do sex challenges, share fantasies, and explore options with your significant other.

And, just like any other game, it has a winner and a prize. If you make it to the end of the board, you win and get to choose which one of the 50 or so fantasies the game offers you want to play out with your partner.

Lovehoney Hot Date Kit

Lovehoney Hot Date Kit

No list of sex toys is complete without a couple’s sex kit or two. Lovehoney’s Hot Date kit has everything you might need for a steamy night of passion. In fact, it has more than enough for multiple nights.

This five-piece sex toy kit has practically everything:

  • G-spot vibrator
  • Bullet vibrator
  • Love egg
  • Rabbit double cock ring
  • Butt plug

All the pieces work great separately, but you can also combine them as well. For example, the bullet vibrator fits perfectly into the rabbit double cock ring (just in case the rabbit ears aren’t enough for your partner). What’s more, both toys can be synced and controlled with the remote control that comes in the kit.

Both the bullet vibe and the love egg have ten modes of vibrations and six different intensity settings. The G-spot vibe, on the other hand, has three speeds and seven patterns. With so many options to choose from, it’s a good thing the cock ring is a double feature that will stray off your orgasm, right?

The World (of Sex Toys for Couples) Is Your Oyster

Categories Of Sex Toys For Couples

Now that you’ve seen my favorites, I’m sure you’re itching to go place some orders. But I’m not done sharing my wisdom yet, so sit down and listen.

There’s more to sex toys for couples than these ten I presented. Sure, these are the best (in my opinion), but if you’re going to invest in a toy, it’s good to know what your options are.

Thankfully, the options are plentiful. No matter what you and your partner want, you’ll surely find a toy that fits your needs. In fact, there are so many options that you’ll probably be stumped and won’t know which ones to pick (hence my top ten list). Don’t worry; you can always buy more than one (wink-wink).

But which ones are the perfect choice for you?

1. Long-Distance Sex Toys for Couples – Location Doesn’t Matter

Long-Distance Sex Toys For Couples

I already mentioned that long-distance sex toys for couples are called teledildonics. These toys are interactive, and they allow couples to have intimate relations even when they aren’t in the same room together.

Couples in long-distance relationships are probably more than familiar with phone sex and dirty chat. However, no matter how hot that is, it gets tiring after a while. Not to mention lonely. Not feeling your partner’s touch (and body parts) makes phone sex nothing more than guided masturbation.

Well, not anymore! Among other things it sorted out, technology also made life easier for LD couples. Teledildonics are toys that come in pairs and can sync up. So, they enhance the experience and make you feel as if you’re actually having sex with your partner. Everything that you do, they feel and vice versa.

Although we are a long way from the sex scene between Sandra Bullock and Silvester Stallone in Demolition Man, teledildonics bring us a step closer to no-contact sex.

And LD sex toys also have useful apps that allow the toys to work together in tandem, and you and your partner to chat, video chat, or send dirty clips to each other.

Editor’s Pick

Kiiroo Onyx+ and Cliona - Sex Toys for Couples
  • Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona
  • Play together with bluetooth technology
  • Several pleasure modes for each toy
  • Control each other’s pleasure
  • Women’s toy fits snugly in your palm
  • Fully rechargeable
Lovense Max 2 and Nora - Couples Sex Toys
  • Lovense Max 2 & Nora
  • Local or long-distance control
  • Great for long-distance couples
  • 3 pleasure settings on each toy
  • Sense & Sync to your partner’s movements
  • Fully rechargeable
Kiiroo Titan and Pearl - Couples Toys
  • Kiiroo Titan & Pearl 2
  • Sense & sync to your partner’s movements
  • Sleek and modern design
  • Fully rechargeable
  • Long-last charge for lengthy playtimes
  • Control your lover’s pleasure

2. LGBTQ+ Long Distance Sex Toys for Couples

LGBTQ Long Distance Sex Toys For Couples

Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona sound great to straight couples. But two gay dudes will probably look at them and think, “What am I supposed to do with this?”

Well, although I have some suggestions (and you all KNOW what you could do with them), LGBTQ+ couples in long-distance relationships really do face some challenges that straight couples don’t have to worry about. For example, although two gay men would surely figure out their way around the Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona, two lesbians would dismiss them in a heartbeat. And for good reason.

Sex toy companies weren’t exactly quick to jump on the “LGBTQ+ inclusive” train, but they are getting there. That’s why today, LD same-sex couples have some options.

If you don’t have a dick, you can order two Clionas that will sync up and work in tandem just like an Onyx+ and a Cliona would. The same goes for two Pearls, two Titans, two Max2s, two Noras, and so on.

Some LGBTQ+ sex toys are better for specific couples. The two Onyx+ kit, for example, can stimulate oral, vaginal, and anal sex. The two toys don’t have to be on the same setting, which technically means you can blow your partner while he’s pounding you (from a distance, of course).

Either way, thanks to inclusiveness, the fun never ends with LD sex toys for couples.

Editor’s Pick

Kiiroo Onyx+ and Cliona - Sex Toys for Couples
  • Pearl 2 & Fuse
  • Control each other’s pleasure
  • Play together with bluetooth technology
  • Fully rechargeable
  • Several pleasure modes for each toy
  • Both devices can sync to a wide array of interactive content
Lush & Nora
  • Lush & Nora
  • More discreet than vibrating panties, only 45.5 dB
  • Local or long-distance control
  • Sync to music
  • Fully rechargeable
  • Great for long-distance couples
Onyx+ & Onyx+
  • Onyx+ & Onyx+
  • Real-feel masturbation sleeve
  • Fully rechargeable
  • Long-last charge for lengthy playtimes
  • Control your lover’s pleasure
  • Sleek and modern design

3. Couple Vibrators – Shake Up the Foundation With That Vibration

Vibrators For Couples

Some people think that only women love vibrations, but those people are wrong. Although they don’t have quite the same effect on men, vibrating toys are a welcome addition in the bedroom.

Before couple vibrators, there were vibrating bullets, cock rings, and eggs. All of those were powerful enough for both partners to feel the vibrations. However, none of them made contact with the Sexcalibur, which men found irritating. Feeling the muffled vibrations was just teasing enough to pique the interest but not strong enough to actually make a difference.

At least that’s how I felt.

But, couple vibrators changed that. Their design offers direct stimulation to both partners, which is a real game-changer.

Couple vibrators come in all shapes and sizes and offer a wide variety of features. Some are small and delicate, while others are huge and powerful. What’s more, some are remote controlled, which allows for some hands-free (or long-distance) fun.

Editor’s Pick

Lelo Tiani 3
  • Lelo Tiani 3
  • Soft & flexible to suit everybody
  • Wireless control for hands-free pleasure
  • 8 Pleasure settings
  • Made for both his and her pleasure during sex
  • Fully rechargeable
We-Vibe Chorus
  • We-Vibe Chorus
  • Use with the free We-Connect App for long-distance play
  • Luxury wearable couple's vibrator
  • Great for long-distance couples
  • 3 speeds and 7 patterns for consistent stimulation
  • Fully rechargeable
Fun Factory Be-One
  • Fun Factory Be-One
  • Body-safe materials
  • Sleek and modern design
  • 1 hour of play per charge
  • 100% Waterproof
  • Orgasmic touch for couples

4. Sex Furniture – Relax (and Do It)

Sex Furniture

As you probably guessed from my short Liberator review earlier, I am a huge fan of sex furniture. Let’s be honest, some sex positions are only comfortable to extremely fit and flexible people. I consider myself to be reasonably fit, but I’m not a Cirque du Soleil performer.

That’s where sex furniture comes in handy. It opens up so many avenues and possibilities. It makes sex more accessible, comfortable, and just better. With it, penetration can be deeper, and contact points are more comfortable and easier for both you and your partner.

For example, my partner loves to sit on my face (and I love it too), but squatting isn’t exactly a natural position. When that calf spasm hits, we can both say goodbye to our orgasms. The Queening Chair solves that problem marvelously.

There’s a wide variety of sex furniture on the market:

  • cushions
  • ramps
  • chairs
  • stools
  • loungers
  • thrones
  • benches
  • horses etc.

Sex furniture has a bit of a bad rap due to Hollywood’s portrayal of kink and BDSM. You usually see it in creepy dark sex dungeons of perverted antagonists in movies and TV shows. Well, I’m always the first to defend sex furniture, as weird as that may sound, because:

  • It’s not all kink-related or kink-appropriate.
  • Even when it is, there’s nothing wrong with that (no kink-shaming!).
  • It makes sex more comfortable and more accessible for people with limited movement or disabilities.

Editor’s Pick

Liberator Sex Position Ramp
  • Liberator Sex Position Ramp
  • Cushions can be used separately or together
  • Cushions feature a 'responsive core'
  • Set of 2 angled sex position pillows for better positions
  • 27 degree angle for comfortable support, deep penetration and maximum satisfaction
  • Non-slip microfibre cases are removable and machine washable
Liberator Hipster
  • Liberator Hipster
  • High and low curves offer easy access and options for lift
  • Higher angle delivers deeper penetration for doggie
  • Moisture-resistant liner
  • High-density foam supports the body and prevents sinking
  • Cover is removable and machine-washable
Liberator Sex Position Enhancer
  • Liberator Sex Position Enhancer
  • Contoured sex seat to aid longer, more comfortable sex sessions
  • Sleek and modern design
  • High-density foam to support both bodies in motion
  • Velvety finish adds a luxurious touch
  • Unzippable washable covers to keep your cushion fresh

5. Sex Swings – Not Just for Swingers

Sex swings are a subcategory of sex furniture. Their primary purpose is to make certain sex positions attainable for everyone. Again, accessibility is the key here, not kink (although they do make great additions to any kinky collection).

Sex swings allow one partner to be up in the air. Thus, they are accessible from all sides. There’s no bed or chair or anything else in the way. Furthermore, they free up one partner from doing all the heavy lifting. No matter how light or petite your partner is, holding them up becomes tiresome after a short while.

So, sex swings make all our lives easier. Do you know that super hot scene that’s so frequent in Hollywood movies? You know the one – the man picks up the woman, slams her against the wall, lifts her legs, so they circle his waist and proceeds to give her the best pounding of her life (judging by her moans and calls to various deities). Well, even if we disregard the fact that in the moment of lifting and slamming (also, ouch), both partners are fully dressed, there’s no way that he can hold her up for long enough for both of them to come.

In reality, he’ll either switch positions or use a sex swing. And trust me, the sex swing options is much more fun.

Now, sex swings do require some handiwork. You can drill them into your ceiling or attach them to your door. Alternatively, you can also buy the standalone type that comes with a frame. Either way, you have to assemble it yourself. Thus, the handiwork comment.

But trust me, sex swings are worth wielding a screwdriver for an hour or two (I’m just kidding, it doesn’t take an hour to assemble a swing).

Editor’s Pick

Fetish Fantasy Spinning Sex Swing
  • Fetish Fantasy Spinning Swing
  • 360-degree rotational sex swing
  • Enables couples to enjoy challenging sexual positions with ease
  • For the intelligent and adventurous mind
  • Super-strong materials
  • Supports up to 350lbs/160kg.
Sportsheets Sex Swing
  • Sportsheets Sex Swing
  • Comfortable support during upright intimacy
  • Safe, creative and sexually satisfying way to embrace your fantasies
  • Made from strong Nylon and cushioned Neoprene
  • Reliable support over any closed household door
  • Suitable for weights up to 325lbs/150Kg
Fetish Fantasy Spinning Swing
  • Fetish Fantasy Door Swing
  • Over-the-door sex swing for upright erotic adventures
  • Great for couples with a large height difference
  • Arm and foot stirrups give the user stability
  • Strong Nylon and cushioned Neoprene offer durability and comfort
  • Can sustain upto 300lbs/135Kg

6. Sexy Fun and Games – Roleplay of a Different Kind

Sex Games

Finally, if sex toys aren’t your thing, or you’re looking for another way to spice up your relationship, try sex board games.

Yes, those things exist, and yes, they are amazing. Some of them are designed just like real boardgames (like Monogamy), while others are super simple (like the sex dice).

Sex games make perfect naughty gifts for your significant other. What’s more, they are also a great way to reignite the spark that might have dimmed after a while. Having a routine is great, but do you know what’s better? Playing sexy games and trying out new stuff with your partner.

Editor’s Pick

Monogamy
  • Monogamy
  • Bestselling board game for couples
  • Perfect for reigniting sexual tension between you and your partner
  • Features three levels of intensity
  • Encourages intimate conversation
  • For the intelligent and adventurous mind
Fantasy Affairs Game
  • Fantasy Affairs Game
  • Adult board game for loving couples
  • Safe, creative and sexually satisfying way to embrace your fantasies
  • Explore creative kissing
  • Intimate foreplay and adventurous fantasy affair scenarios
  • Described by players as an "addictive" game
Sex! Board Game
  • Sex! Board Game
  • Engage in erotic foreplay and tantalizing sex-play
  • 60 SEX! cards
  • Role-Playing game for adventurous couples
  • Complete and carry out a fantasy of 6 sex positions after you win
  • 70 trivia cards

Teamwork Never Ends – How to Use, Clean, and Store Sex Toys for Couples

How to use, clean and store sex toys

Why Materials Matter

When you’re choosing the perfect sex toys for him and her or a couples sex kit, you have to think about both form and function. Sure, you know what you want and what would work the best function-wise, but what about the form?

I’m not talking about the design here (although it is important). Before you go gushing about how pretty a toy is, check the materials it’s made out of. Body-safe, clinically tested materials are your ONLY option if you want to stay healthy and unharmed.

Silicone toys are your best bet. TPE is also great, especially because it’s softer and more pliable than silicone, but it’s also more difficult to clean. If you don’t have a steady partner, sharing toys made out of TPE can become a health and safety hazard.

It’s also important to check whether you have any allergies that could turn your Funtime into a call-the-doctor time. Allergies to silicone and TPE aren’t common, but some toys made out of porous materials (like jelly) can cause an allergic reaction after prolonged use.

Getting Down and Dirty

When it comes to using sex toys for couples, there is no trick. All toys come with instructions. Some are more detailed than others. But, then again, some toys are simple to use while others look convoluted and alien.

Either way, you and your partner will have to find the perfect way to use the toy – one that works for both of you. If you’re a novice, I suggest trying out everything the toy has to offer. If it has multiple features and settings, it will be a while before you and your partner settle on one. But, hey – it’s not like trying them out will be a hardship, right?

Don’t Forget About Safety

It’s essential that you use toys as they were intended. Yes, I know that you get off on experimentation, but safety has to come first. You don’t want to end up in an ER with a vibrating egg shoved up your butt, do you? No? Then don’t use all toys for anal play.

The same goes for all toys – follow the instructions. If the toy isn’t waterproof, don’t take it into the shower with you. I don’t care that it looks waterproof; you will end up with a broken toy.

Experiment Together

When you opt for a couples sex toy, you need to make sure everyone is on board. It isn’t something you can just spring on your partner. So, don’t be a douche who whips out a vibrator from under the bed and suggestively wiggles his eyebrows at his partner. Talk to them instead. Using sex toys is supposed to be a journey you go on together.

Also, don’t keep your sex toys under your bed. It’s unhygienic and gross. Instead, keep them in a plastic box or a cloth pouch somewhere where dust and dirt can’t get to them.

Before Your Put It Away

Most of you already know the drill. This is the time Mark rages on and on about how important cleaning actually is. Clean your toys before and after each use with warm water and soap. You can also use a cleaning agent for sex toys if you have it. Either way, make sure to dry your toys well before you put them back in their place.

Listen, you’re one dirty toy away from a yeast or bacterial infection. So instead of laughing about my obsession, consider saying thank you. I’m saving you from a round or two of antibiotics.

5 things you should know before buying a couple sex toy

1. You won’t always use it together.

Even if you both make a deal that you’ll only use this toy together, I bet that you’ll cave at some point, and end up using it on your own. And so will she. So make sure you both are satisfied with the toy that you’re buying. There are lots of options on the market, so you don’t have to settle. This experience can be (and SHOULD be) awesome for both of you.

2. They aren’t all made equally.

If you’re looking at $60 for a set of couple sex toy, then I can bet you’re basically getting garbage. I’ve tried a couple that I found out there – and let me tell you. Save your money. When you’re getting into toys that are this high-tech, and that are meant to sync with one another, you’re only going to run into frustrations if you don’t buy from a reputable and high-end company.

3. More expensive doesn’t always mean better.

This kind of piggy-backs off the last one, but it’s important to note that unfortunately there ARE companies out there looking to completely gouge people of their hard-earned money for inferior products. Do your research and only buy from brands and websites that have a good reputation, and that can offer your a guarantee of an authentic product, and great customer satisfaction.

4. Choose the toys based on her pleasure.

I know, you’re using it too… but you want to make sure that she’s happy. All of the fun sex toys for couples that I mentioned above are your typical male strokers with a female counterpart. You’re going to like all of the male versions I listed – trust me on that. But when it comes to HER pleasure, make sure she gets what she wants… not all women want internal stimulation, but some women need it. You want to make sure she loves playing with these toys as much as you do so that you get some real use out of them!

5. You’re going to be so happy you did this.

Seriously – these toys are so much fun to play with! Whether you’re looking for sex toys for married couples, long-distance couples, or simply couples who like to add a bit of extra excitement into the bedroom in different ways, you’re BOTH going to enjoy this. Being able to control each other’s pleasure and connect in this new way is really exciting, and you won’t be disappointed.

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Important Tips for First-Time Buyers

Shop Together

Ideally, before you actually buy a sex toy for you and your partner, you’ll discuss your wants and needs in-depth. Then, you’ll both do research to see which type of toy fits both of you.

After that, you should pick a specific toy and order it. I suggest you do this together. First of all, it will make sure you’re both satisfied with the choice (or you’ll both share the blame if it doesn’t work). Second of all, shopping for a sex toy is hot. It builds anticipation and is a sexy experiment all on its own. While you’re waiting for the toy to arrive, the thought of sexy times to come will instigate even hotter sexy times even if you don’t do anything new or different (trust me on this).

Remote Offers More Options

I always recommend remote-controlled toys to couples because they offer more options. You can play when you’re together or when you’re apart. Also, if you paid attention to my story about the Lilo bullet vibrator, you’ll see that remote-controlled toys offer another layer of fun.

Switching Roles

Not all men are into ass play. That’s perfectly fine. However, since I’m an open-minded guy who preaches about prostate orgasms any chance I get, I’ll do it here too. Try out all the features a couple’s toy offers. If it’s a toy that can penetrate, try it out on yourself (only if it’s safe, of course).

Switching roles and power positions can be beneficial for a couple. It’s a way to break up a routine and experience something new, which is what sex toys are all about.

What you should avoid when buying sex toys for couples

  • Crappy or illegitimate websites. – I state this over and over again when I talk about sex toys on my site, or with friends. There are tons of websites out there that are seriously not cool. Websites that promise discreet shipping, and then end up sending you your toys wrapped in what might as well be fluorescent pink paper with the words ‘SEX TOY’ written on it in magic marker. Or sites that promise you a toy at a HUGE discount, and then of course you get a total knock-off. Instead of Kiiroo you’ll get Kiiirrooo (you totally know what I’m talking about). So make sure you’re buying from an official, reputable site.
  • Cheap materials. – The sex toys for couples I mentioned above are all made of high quality materials – and yes, those can be expensive. But when you’re putting them up next to your most intimate parts, don’t you want to know that they’re hypo-allergenic, and safe for your skin’s contact? Don’t you want to know that they’re going to deliver the smoothest, most realistic and most pleasurable experience?
  • Buying with your own pleasure in mind. – I know, I know… I’ve mentioned this before. But it’s incredibly important. As the man, I will personally guarantee you that you will be satisfied with any of the above options, as far as the male counterpart is concerned. It’s going to stroke your cock, it’s going to feel awesome, and it’s going to get you off. But you know what’s going to REALLY matter? The size and type of toy that SHE is playing with. Does she want clitoral stimulation? Vaginal stimulation? Both? These are the things that really matter. If you’re buying it as a surprise, I say… “get the one that does it all!” And oh yeah… you’re welcome.

Rate Your Favorite Sex Toys for Couples

We Wanna Know What Your Absolute Favorite Sex Toys For Couples Are Rating icon
Product NameRatePrice
Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona
Kiiroo Onyx+ & Cliona
1698
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$289
Max 2 & Nora
Max 2 & Nora
1246
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$190
Lelo Tiani 3
Lelo Tiani 3
1036
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$169
Kiiroo Titan & Pearl 2
Kiiroo Titan & Pearl 2
963
Rating icon
$229
We-Vibe Chorus
We-Vibe Chorus
853
Rating icon
$199
Fun Factory Be-One
Fun Factory Be-One
728
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$70
Lelo Lyla 2
Lelo Lyla 2
669
Rating icon
$150
Liberator Sex Position Ramp
Liberator Sex Position Ramp
534
Rating icon
$190
Monogamy
Monogamy
455
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$40
Lovehoney Hot Date Kit
Lovehoney Hot Date Kit
381
Rating icon
$90

You Ask – I Answer

How do I approach the topic of sex toys?

This is the question I get most often. I’ll be honest with you – if you and your partner never mentioned sex toys, it’s going to be awkward. However, the best approach is the direct one.

Sit your partner down and tell them there’s something you’d like to discuss with them. Then, simply ask them if toys are something they are interested in. Make sure to say that you aren’t dissatisfied by their sexual prowess (some people are sensitive about that) or bored with your sex life. Emphasize that you think some experimentation might be fun and that toys are something you’d like to try WITH them.

Will my partner get addicted to the toy if it’s better than me?

First of all, the toy won’t be “better than you.” Sex toys can’t substitute human contact or the intimacy between the two of you. Furthermore, you aren’t supposed to compete with the toy. It’s a tool that will bring both you and your partner more pleasure. It’s not direct competition.

Can vibrators make my partner and me desensitized?

Sometimes the overuse of vibrators can make the clitoris or prostate desensitized. However, that’s not such a huge issue. Just don’t use your toy for a few days, and don’t play with yourself – it works like a charm!

Conclusion

Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship, a long-distance relationship, or even just a fling, I must say that I’m completely floored with how far technology has come in the way of sex toys. The fact that you can actually sync up with one another and feel the same vibrations as she does, at the same time – and control each other’s sensations – I mean, this is something out of Back to the Future, don’t you think?? And one of the coolest parts about these toys, is that most of them have a ton of capabilities that can be used on their own too. Things like virtual porn adaptability and so much more. And please trust me.. . the ones I mentioned above are top of the line! You will not be disappointed.

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About The Author

Mark Mitchell

Hi, I’m Mark. Welcome to BestBlowjobMachines.com! This is a positive space where I talk about the latest male sex toys that hit the market.

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