Commit Any Of These Sins And You Won’t Likely Be Seeing Your Date Again
I don’t mean to freak you out, but it’s fairly easy to blow a first date. Too often are people unaware of how swiftly and certainly some of the seemingly smallest actions can totally turn a guy or girl off. Commit any of the following no-nos and you might just send your potential partner running for the door.
1. Reek Of Desperation
Guys, begging to extend the night when your date has already begun to close the front door to her apartment demonstrates a level of desperation that’s attractive only to those with a stalker fetish. If she likes you, you’ll see her again: that’s what second dates are for. And ladies, whipping out a child naming book the first time you meet a guy will only ensure that he puts your name down in his “Do Not Answer” book. Confidence is great, but only when paired with an ability to show restraint.
2. Fail To Pay Attention
On the other hand, try to act “mysterious” and you’ll run the risk of conveying that you’re uninterested. Silence is a killer! I’m not suggesting you jabber about yourself for two hours or grill your date like she’s a Colombian drug lord on trial, either – but you both need to get to know one another. For this reason, any respectful dater knows to not respond to any calls, emails, or alerts (short of one indicating an impending tsunami that may directly threaten your date’s life) for the duration of the evening. And for God’s sake keep your eyes on your date, and off of your sexy server’s behind?
3. Act Like A Wet Noodle
Not talking at all is bad, but asking for permission to go to the bathroom is worse. Manners are a must – but there’s a difference between proper etiquette and subservience. Most women I’ve talked to appreciate a man who is able to express his wants and needs directly and respectfully. And most guys I know appreciate a woman who thinks and acts decisively. Don’t be afraid to speak what’s on your mind as long as you do it with some class.
4. Talk About S.R.P.
What do sex, religion, and politics all have in common? They’re all strictly off limits on a first date! If you and your date happen to hold differing views on any of these topics, you could rule one another out prematurely. (Remember: people may not change, but they certainly grow). Plus, although I’m sure I don’t have to explain how a debate over the Israeli-Palestinian conflict in Gaza might put a damper on romance for the night, frank bedroom talk can just as easily turn off a more sensitive or sexually inexperienced individual.
5. Reveal Too Much
A cute story about the crush you had on Suzy Johnson in the 5th grade is one thing, but revealing the details about how much spit you swapped with her in high school is another. Your date doesn’t need to know every detail of your personal history during a first meeting – especially if those details are gross, unflattering, or scandalous. In fact, it’s best not to get too in depth about any of your failed or successful relationships, as well as any personal drama or trauma. No one wants to – or should – have to keep skeletons closeted while in a relationship, but date numero uno isn’t the time to exhume them.
6. Forget Important Facts
If you can remember nothing from this article, at the very least, please remember your date’s name.
